A friend called and told me about her newborn twins. I was so happy for her. She was waiting for 7 years for the first born. After almost two years, God blessed her with another two children.
I teased her, asking her, is there a plan for getting a bigger car to fit three carseats for her babies.
She told me they are just fine with their current cars and they can't afford getting a new, bigger car as they will be paying for two mortgage loans soon. I asked whether or not they would consider to let go one of the mortgages. One of it is a government scheme mortgage loan offered to government servants and it requires no deposit. Hence, she can reject the mortgage offer at anytime before paying deposit.
She said it would be a loss to let go the house as it will be a good investment. Property in Putrajaya, who wouldn't want it?
Then she asked me, have we gotten any property and I said no. She told me about the price gets higher every year and I said we don't really bother with it now as we are living with a single wage and my alternative treatment bills is the main focus now.
We spend 400-600 per month for my alternative treatment, my husband buys take out meals regularly as it is time consuming to cook especially on school nights and he covers for my monthly bills too. Having these, we can't afford getting a new loan.
She asked me about having cheaper alternative remedies like taking sunnah food for supplement. I told her that my treatment has shown positive improvement and I can't rely on supplements alone as the remedy for my illness.
She seemed understand.
What I learned from this conversation are;
1) Different people live different lives and have different priorities.
2) Life is not a competition.
3) Just because we think something is good for us, it doesn't necessarily mean it is good for others too.
4) Some people may not understand well our situations. And, we may not understand well their situations too.
aisyar.
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